Releasing Scarcity and Choosing Ease
Finding balance is difficult.
Having faith is difficult.
Surrendering, most days, is damn near impossible.
I know that anything worth having is worth working for, and I don’t feel that to build the dream that I am building, I need to, or have had to, truly sacrifice anything. At least not in the way most people would define or understand sacrifice. I’ve never suffered in that way, and for that I am truly grateful.
The difficulty lies in the unknown and in trusting that my beliefs can chase away the fears that have been so deeply ingrained in me by generation upon generation of financial strain and hardships, with my ancestors at times barely surviving through tragedy and turmoil, only to come out of it with maybe a couple of pennies to rub together. All of the stories I have heard of doing without, living paycheck to paycheck, just scraping by.
I don’t want to exist inside of scarcity.
I want to thrive inside of ease.
But how do I do that when everyone and everything around me continually points to the idea that success without struggle is just not possible?
How do I look my parents or my grandparents in the eye and tell them that they are wrong when I am so weighed down with the burden of proof and seemingly nothing to show for it?
I may not have a thriving business (yet), but I have been present and able to experience more of my life in the past two and a half years than I had for the previous decade.
I may not have the financial abundance and prosperity overflowing in my bank account (yet), but abundance and prosperity in every other area of my life have grown tenfold in such a short amount of time.
I may not be where I thought I would be (yet), but I am exactly where I need to be. And every day I am learning more and more about my strength, my faith, my ability to endure, not through survival, but through the obstacles that need to show up in my life so that I do not become complacent in thinking that speed bumps don’t exist.
Because I need the speed bumps to remind me to slow down, to assess and evaluate, and make sure that I am in alignment with the life that I keep believing I am worthy of. So that one day that belief turns into understanding, and that understanding grows into truth, and that truth becomes the reality of all of those things I found it so difficult to surrender to before, and the proof that all that we desire can come to us with ease.
A Mini Ritual for Releasing Scarcity & Reclaiming Ease
When you find yourself having a recurring dialogue around an inherited belief or mindset, here is a powerful little ritual to help you loosen the grip of the inherited story and create the space for something new to take its place.
You’ll need:
A quiet moment (5–10 minutes is enough)
A pen and journal (or just a piece of paper)
A candle or cup of warm tea (optional, but grounding)
Step 1: Name the Inherited Story
In your journal or on your piece of paper, write out one sentence that captures the belief or mindset you are struggling with.
Examples:
I must sacrifice and work hard in order to achieve the life I desire.
Step 2: Acknowledge Where It Came From
Below that sentence, write where or who this belief came from. This is not from a place of judgment, but simply to recognize that this belief was formed in a different time, under different circumstances.
Examples:
Learned from my parents’ experiences.
Passed down through family stories of survival.
Shaped by fear of instability or loss.
Step 3: Choose a New Anchor
Now write a sentence that feels more aligned with the life you are building or desire to create for yourself.
Place your hand on your chest and read this sentence out loud.
Examples:
I am allowed to build a life that feels supportive, not exhausting.
Ease is something I practice, not something I wait to earn.
Step 4: Close with Integration
Take one slow, deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Then speak the following words to yourself:
“I honor what carried me here and I choose what carries me forward.”
We can honor the stories that carried us here without continuing to live inside them. We can notice what we’ve been holding, release what no longer belongs, and choose narratives that align with the life we are building now.
And we don’t have to rush that process.
We simply have to keep choosing, one honest moment at a time.
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