Grounding Into the Woman You’re Becoming: Embodiment, Alignment, and the Power of Showing Up Now
I’ve spoken before about confidence and how it’s not something we necessarily learn, it’s something we slowly step into. A lot of the time it really is a fake-it-till-you-make-it situation, and honestly, I think the same can be said for fully embodying and stepping into the woman you’re becoming.
I can’t speak for everyone, but personally, when I think of the future, when I think of the woman I want to become, the qualities she holds, the knowledge she’ll have, those aren’t always things I have in my wheelhouse right now. But just like with confidence, the more you step into that version of yourself, even a little bit at a time, the more natural she becomes.
“The more you practice it, the more you choose it, the more you think it, breathe it, do it, the more it starts to feel real.”
And I know when I’m aligned with that version of myself because my body tells me.
When I’m creating what I’m meant to be creating, when things click into place, I get this uplifting, electric sensation, like climbing toward the top of a rollercoaster right before the drop. My senses sharpen. I feel everything: joy, fear, excitement, anticipation. It’s like my system is saying, yes, this is the path.
If our vision for ourselves is to be this powerhouse CEO of a giant company, or a grounded mother, or a deeply intuitive woman who trusts herself fully, whatever the vision is, then where do we start? Because from where you’re standing right now, that version of you might feel impossible or improbable. But to truly ground into that version of yourself, even if she feels far away, there are still pieces of her that exist in you right now.
I can see where she’s already showing up in my own life:
In the way I regulate my nervous system with more ease.
In the way I stay present instead of reacting first.
In the decisions I’m making, the business I’m building, the relationships I’m choosing, ones that honor my core values and my boundaries.
“I see her in my ability to walk away from things that no longer serve the life I’m building.”
So the way forward has to exist in the here and now.
You start asking:
How does she behave?
How does she think?
How does she problem-solve?
How does she spend her time, her energy, her effort?
And you also start noticing what you're no longer willing to tolerate.
For me, I stopped tolerating my own excuses.
If something feels off, I question it instead of pushing past it.
I’ve dropped hustle culture entirely, pushing myself to the point of burnout doesn’t serve me personally or professionally.
“I give myself rest, space, and recalibration. And I’m better for it.”
Because the more you teach your nervous system, your brain patterns, your emotional responses, this is how you want to show up… the more natural it becomes. You’re building the pathways. You’re teaching your core energy the frequency you want to live in.
And we know how energy works, like attracts like.
Sometimes I imagine standing in front of the woman I’m becoming, and I think about what she would thank me for.
She would thank me for choosing my inner peace.
For walking away from careers, relationships, and situations that didn’t honor my values or my purpose.
For taking myself seriously enough to do the healing work I didn’t realize was necessary.
“She’d thank me for stopping the excuses and actually doing the work.”
And on the days when I feel myself slipping back into old patterns or expectations, grounding myself is simple:
Bare feet on the earth.
Breath.
Presence.
And when I can’t get outside, I sit in my zen den, one hand on my heart, one on my sacral, breathing until my energy settles and I feel myself returning to center.
Grounded growth isn’t aesthetic or curated. It’s not perfectly lit routines or practices that look good online.
For me, it’s trial and error.
It’s letting practices be personal instead of perfect.
It’s sitting on a patch of grass (yes, weeds and all) and letting the earth hold me.
It’s pausing in front of my computer when something feels off instead of forcing my way through.
“Grounded growth is honest, messy, simple, and deeply human.”
And no matter who that woman is, the one you’re becoming, she’s already taking shape inside you.
Your job is to ground into her now.
