Meet Yourself Wherever You Are
The Myth of Always Being “High Vibe”
Being spiritual, attuned, awakened, or whatever you want to call it, does not mean you’re never going to fall out of alignment, have a bad day, or feel off-kilter. It doesn’t mean you’ll live in a constant state of heightened frequency, elevated consciousness, or unshakable awareness every single moment. Let’s be honest: that’s just not realistic.
When I first started getting serious about my own spiritual growth journey, I carried the belief that “perfect” was the only way forward. I had to meditate, journal, do yoga and breathwork, eat clean, drink water, take herbs and supplements. Every day. Forever. Otherwise I’d never reach the peak of my spiritual journey.
I know there are people who do maintain that level of ritual and discipline, and I applaud them. But for most of us, juggling careers, relationships, hobbies, and a busy schedule, that military-style structure just isn’t sustainable.
Burnout doesn’t just happen in the workplace. Fatigue can happen in every aspect of our lives, even spiritually. I was so used to working 60+ hours a week that, even after leaving that career behind for a slower-paced life, the old habits bled into the new rituals I was creating.
Over time, my rituals began to morph into stringent routines. Instead of being soul-nourishing, they became another checklist. And inevitably, I’d snap under the pressure, falling into the pendulum effect, swinging from rigid structure to not doing anything at all for days or weeks at a time.
Shifting Perspective: From Microscope to Wide Lens
If you’ve followed me for a while, you know I love to look at things both micro and macro, zoomed in and zoomed out. Too often, we live with our eyes glued to the microscope, analyzing whether we’ve succeeded or failed in a single moment, or a single day.
During one of my own frustrating seasons of spiritual practice, I came across an idea (in an article, or maybe a podcast, I can’t even remember now) that shifted everything for me. The speaker explained that we get hung up on the daily 24-hour cycle. If we don’t fit everything in, we feel like failures. But when we zoom out and look at the weekly, monthly, or even yearly patterns, progress tells a different story.
“One day, one week, even one season doesn’t have to define the whole trajectory of our journey.”
When I finally pulled back the lens on my own life, I saw what I had been missing: progress was happening. Over that first year of rediscovery, I had devoted meaningful energy to self-care, relationships, healing, emotional processing, and spiritual exploration. I had been nourishing all the things I valued, just not every single day. And that was enough.
The Postcard-Perfect Illusion
Just as I had to zoom out on my own progress, I also had to zoom out on the images of other people’s lives I was consuming online.
Social media doesn’t help. Influencers, celebrities, and even everyday creators often present a postcard-sized version of their lives. Even the “day in the life” reels we scroll past are highlight reels, not the full messy, beautiful, ordinary 24-hour cycle.
There have been so many times, especially over the past couple of years, that I’ve felt the need to step away from social media because it didn’t align with my core values, or with how I wanted to be presenting myself both personally and professionally. When I came back, I did so intentionally, with rules to keep myself from falling into the comparison trap.
I no longer post because I feel like I have to. I post because I want to, because I feel called to, or because I have something purposeful or meaningful to share. I don’t post to chase algorithms or trends.
“The world doesn’t need more of the algorithm. It needs more of our authenticity.”
I, like many others, have fallen trap to the envy monster. This filtered viewpoint of other people’s lives can be at best inspiring and at worst detrimental to our well-being. That’s why it’s been so important for me, as someone who shows up online, to keep my presence as authentic as possible.
This “have it all, have it all right now” mentality has been pressed on us for decades. And with everything accessible at the tap of a screen, it’s no wonder the areas we most want to grow are often the ones we give ourselves the least grace for.
The Reality of Spiritual Growth
Spiritual growth does take time, energy, and intentional effort. But here’s the part that isn’t often spoken about: sometimes the deepest growth happens when we step back from the work, the ritual, the practice, the striving, and simply live.
Just like with social media, I’ve learned it’s just as important to step back from my rituals and practices. Some of my best ideas, most powerful realizations, and deepest healing moments have come not when I was “doing the work,” but when I simply stopped trying.
I call these my analog days. Days where I put the practices aside and just live: being in nature, spending time with the people I love, sitting with myself in stillness. These days recenter and ground me.
“When we stop putting pressure on ourselves to be ‘on’ all the time, we create space to reconnect with what truly matters.”
They remind me that I am just a tiny speck on a giant rock hurtling through space and time, bringing perspective to the problems I’ve blown out of proportion.
More Good Days… But Still Real Ones
These days, I have more good days than ever before. But that doesn’t mean I don’t experience hard moments. What’s changed is that I now have the tools, the space, and the awareness to move through them.
Where I once suppressed feelings, letting them simmer until they boiled over, I now notice the trickle when it starts. I acknowledge it. I don’t rush to plug the leak, because I know the visible crack may not be the real cause.
Healing isn’t just about patching those cracks either. It’s about finding the catalyst, the root cause, and choosing to feel instead of suppress. Because here’s the truth: if you don’t heal it, you’ll continue to feel it.
Being spiritual, awake, or self-aware doesn’t erase anger, sadness, or frustration. What it does mean is choosing to sit with them, listen to what they’re trying to say, and honor them instead of brushing past.
The Power of Presence
Meeting yourself wherever you are is the truest form of self-compassion. You don’t have to hustle your way into wholeness or force your way into enlightenment. Every moment, whether it feels expansive or messy, is a doorway back to yourself. The more grace you extend to your own process, the more space you create to grow, heal, and come home to your center.
And sometimes, having someone walk beside you makes that journey lighter, clearer, and more aligned. This is the heart of my 1:1 Spiritual Life Coaching sessions, creating a space to help you release the pressure, rediscover your rhythms, and reconnect with the most authentic version of yourself.
If this resonates with you, I’d love to connect. You can schedule a free connection call here or reach out directly to explore if this work feels right for you.
